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The representations tread the line between cultural authenticity, sometimes considered stereotype, and colorblindness.
The women exhibit some level of conflict with their cultures and are slightly neurotic: Ming Na dreaded telling her immigrant parents that she was having a baby out of wedlock; Nagra quit her job in a bout of rebellion against family expectation to work as a convenience store clerk. Phifer grew up without a father and has a temper; Gallant went off to serve in Iraq.
The couples I spoke to met after finding themselves in the same place at the same time.
Aarti, a 26-year-old activist of Indian descent, found her first Black boyfriend at 15 when she left her fully multiracial public school for a scholarship to a prep school where the students were polarized between Black and white. My body type in high school was much more voluptuous than it is now, and that just really took the white guys out,”she said.
“I’m not sure that African-American men have been involved in sexual relationships with Asian women in that context any more than white men; it’s just that when African-American men are doing it, it gets noticed more,”said Ross.
That doesn’t mean, however, that stereotypes don’t come into play.
None of the couples I heard from or about while reporting this story had any military background whatsoever, and all had faced or expected strong resistance from the Asian partner’s family.Rigg cites the generations-old Black obsession with martial arts movies, as well as the Asian adoption of hip-hop culture.And Asians look up to Blacks as the standard-bearers for civil rights activism.Aarti does not discuss her dating life with her parents.She recalls that one time when she brought home a Black boyfriend “as a friend,” her father felt the need to craft a long explanation for his presence to an extended family member.
Performer Kate Rigg wrote a song for one of her Asian dancers: Mutual Attraction Two things have been changing since my family immigrated in 1972.