Dating and becoming exclusive
Let me emphasize this before we begin: Being aggressive is generally a really bad idea!
I get contacted by a lot of women who contact me they’ve verbally attacked the person they were dating over the issue of activity online.
Want to have the talk in person instead of an email? And remember: the goal at this point isn’t to win some kind of fight where at the end you’re in a committed relationship.
The Know When it’s Time to Move On Some people will take this approach and will find it works great: they’re in an exclusive relationship now and his/her profile came down off the dating site.
However, many others will get some kind of story or pushback.
If there are others out there who have experience or thoughts they could share that would help others get to “being exclusive”, I’d love to hear them!Ideally, I would like to date someone for 3-4 months before becoming exclusive. Also, I'm somewhat worried that the guys I'm dating will "assume" we are exclusive before we've talked about it.Is there a point where I should drop hints that we're not exclusive just to make sure we're on the same page?I understand why people I talk to look at me cross-eyed when I say that it’s not wrong for the person their dating to continue to be active online. While it may not seem kind, dating multiple people is one of the key benefits of online dating in my mind.You might have an amazing date only to see the person is “Online Now” when you get home. Because of that, my opinion is that until you agree to enter an exclusive relationship with one another, you should BOTH be looking to meet other people.
You can recover from this, but it’s is hard to do…so try to avoid putting yourself in a position where you need to recover!