Hindus woman dating loving
Before our marriage, I remember people in the neighbourhood would ask Parvez about his intention in marrying me.
And in Srinagar, once some men had come to our house and they asked Parvez if I prayed. Arun: "We got married in 2012 and very honestly, we've really not faced any challenges.
There was a lot of trouble, especially at her home. But that said, I have a friend who happens to be a Muslim married to a Hindu woman, and I can tell you they go through hell. Once, we were travelling back from Srinagar airport.
When we had to meet her parents before the marriage, I wasn't nervous. Our tickets had been booked together but after seeing our names, the people on the counter refused to give us the boarding passes.
They were openly protesting the idea of me getting married to a Hindu woman, they were not happy about it.
They kept insisting that she should be converted, if at all this has to happen.
I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation for my marriage, but I thought it might be interesting to give you guys a little more of a peek into my personal life that you may not have seen before.
The follow up question was why bother becoming Hindu if I wasn’t going to marry a Hindu? I was always going to be a Hindu and no one could stop me from that.
He saves deep existential pondering to his cousin who is into them. In fact he rarely travels with his wife, because she is more of a home body, and that is not an issue or a problem. Which means you behave in a more thoughtful and wise way with your spouse. If you want to leave, the stakes are higher because you are leaving a whole family behind.
A comment came up on the blog last week suggesting that my choice of husband was racist. This friend suggested that it was because white people like to marry other white people and we don’t consider people of other races our equals or worth considering for marriage. My very first love, one of the most intense of my life, was with a black Christian man. Just a year or two into when I had started my blog on Blogger. At the same time, this is a man who can make me feel loved when I am at my most difficult.
I do try really hard to call out any racism that I find hiding in my psyche but in this case I don’t think that’s a fair assessment of my situation. Did you know that I dated a reader of this blog once? A young Indian man contacted me who lived nearby and who had grown up in an Advaitan family. I intived him to a New Year’s party that some writer friends throw. I didn’t get married until I was thirty and it was not from a lack of trying. He may not practice Hinduism, but he understands it and he knows what it means to me.
Yes I did marry someone who is also white, someone with a very similar ethnic background to mine, and someone who is not Hindu. We clicked so well that my friends had no idea it was the first time we had met. After that party I didn’t hear from him for several months. I spent my entire twenties doing everything I could to get married. I am proof that interfaith relationships can work if you both have respect for the other’s beliefs.
I’m not going to take you through my entire relationship history, but the truth is that I have dated and I have loved men of other races including some Indian men. And I had given up completely when my parents asked the guru for the right man for me to come along. I didn’t ask for him to be non-Indian or non-Hindu but that’s what I got.