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, Elizabeth Esther tweeted that she never went to prom because of her Fundamentalist upbringing.In response, one of her followers tweeted that she didn’t have a prom because of Joshua Harris, the author of the influential book was published in 1997 and quickly became a hit among the Evangelical crowd.Viewers are taken through an exciting journey, seeing the roots of the purity movement, the various (and sometimes harmful) effects it had on its participants, and proposing a new and perhaps wiser perspective on the issues of dating, courtship, and romance in the 21st century.The content of the film is enlightening, and the character of Joshua Harris is inspirational. I would never have known Josh Harris’s name were it not for this book and his elevation based on it.Even though I didn’t see myself as his primary audience, I and others like me reaped the consequences of his work. I was always an avid book reader and since I took my evangelical faith so seriously, I wanted to learn all I could about dating.The US church was afraid of sex and sin, and so we became afraid too. Even in the black churches that I attended, this book was widely read.In hindsight, it’s a bit scary that a white evangelical had that much sway over people whose bodies are already policed by white ideas.
My own parents vowed that their children would never date, we would court, as laid out in Harris’ book.
But beside my non-existent teen love life, the book had a larger impact that as an adult, I’m only now coming to grips with—damaging expectations of myself, men, and sexuality—beliefs that have cost me love, friendship, and given me a life of shame.
(IKDG) about four years later near the end of middle school.
Premarital sex and pregnancy were major social disgraces and a lot of guidance from parents and older family friends (we call them all aunts and uncles) was built around avoiding those disgraces.
I found [the book] very white and male-centered, very dismissive of emotions and intimacy, and very body-dissociative.
For those who grew up in the Evangelical purity craze, the name Joshua Harris is ubiquitous.